On Life and Choice

WARNING: Controversial content

Disclaimer: I am neither pro life nor pro choice. This is not a debate, but an observation. I am not arguing for one side, but acknowledging that abortion is a difficult decision that involves many considerations involving both the woman and the fetus. Please read with an open mind. Rude and judgemental comments will be deleted.


Abortion is a tricky issue. On one hand, an unwanted pregnancy means drastic changes for a woman. She not only endures discomfort, pain, and labor, but also negative social responses. An abortion spares her the struggle of bringing an unwanted child into the world, a child she is not equipped to care for, who will likely live in poor conditions or will grow up in the turmoil of foster care. The woman’s life will be uprooted, and the child’s life will be seriously lacking. A woman can spare herself and the child the suffering. It’s not an easy decision, and it is a decision that causes much grief. It is painful to think of who the child would have been, and the joy the child could have brought. But if she has this child now, it is not only this child who will suffer, but also the future children, as the woman will not have the chance to prepare herself financially or emotionally for motherhood. She will struggle to make ends meet.

But which is better: for a child to have a hard life, or for the child to not have lived at all?

There is no easy answer. Two lives are changed by unexpected pregnancy or abortion. One is given relief and grief. The other is given death before existence, but is spared a potentially miserable life.

Either way, one life is uprooted, and the future is drastically changed.

Do not judge women who choose to abort their child. You don’t know their circumstances. Yes, there are some who choose abortion for vulgar, selfish reasons. Others choose abortion for much more complicated and even compassionate reasons. Every circumstance is different. A solution for one woman could be a disaster for another.

The pro-life movement fights for the rights of an unborn baby and forgets the mother’s struggle. The pro-choice movement fights for the rights of the woman and forgets about the potential and possibilities for the baby inside her. Both movements fail to acknowledge that pregnancy and abortion involves two beings, not just one, and the well-being of both must be considered.

During pregnancy, a woman’s body undergoes drastic changes. She experiences nausea, weight gain, cravings, discomfort, swelling, the need to urinate constantly, emotional fluctuations, and more. Pregnancy is no easy feat. And in the end, the woman undergoes eight hours of tremendous pain. This pain and discomfort is certainly worthwhile for a woman who is excited about her child. But can you imagine going through this for a child you do not want, or for a child you know you cannot keep? There is also an immense amount of social stigma attached to being an unwed, pregnant mother, especially for those in conservative circles. There is a flood of judgement and so little support.

On the other hand, a fetus grows rapidly in the womb. It has a heartbeat. It kicks and rolls around and sucks its thumb. There is debate over whether the fetus has consciousness or feels pain, but there is one thing the fetus definitely has: potential. And this potential is sacrificed when a woman has an abortion.

But the mother also has a potential. The potential to get an education, a career, to have economic and social stability, a marriage, and a family. These are sacrificed when a woman is forced to endure an unexpected pregnancy. The difference is, the fetus does not know what is has lost. The woman does.

For some women, the sacrifice is worthwhile. Some women become wonderful mothers at a young age and are given much support from family members. They are given countless joys as they watch their child grow. Others women are on their own, with no way to give themselves or their children a happy life.

The fallacy of both the pro-life and pro-choice movement is that they fail to acknowledge that a pregnancy involves two beings. These movements make us choose a side, fetus or mother. Every pregnancy is different and every situation is different. In every situation, both the woman and the fetus must be considered. There is no easy answer, and there is no right answer.


3 thoughts on “On Life and Choice

  1. If you are married and want an abortion then I don’t really have much to say about that one, but if you aren’t married and don’t want to get pregnant DON’T HAVE SEX! I know I’m a prude for saying that, but I don’t really care. A lot of people argue that to go through with a unwanted pregnancy is irresponsible, and that it’s more responsible to abort it.. well why don’t you try being responsible in the first place and either go on birth control or just don’t have sex until marriage. (and yes I do realize that birth control can fail, and that is a entirely different subject)

    • You are making a very fundamental mistake here. As a Christian, you believe that having premarital sex is sinful. That is a standard you hold for YOURSELF and other Christians. Those who are not Christians are not held to that standard. Expecting non-Christians to observe Christian standards is theocracy. You have the freedom to observe your religion and have standards for yourself, but you have no right to inflict those beliefs and standards on others. Secondly, sex is becoming more and more normal in today’s society. Most teenagers have their first intercourse by by age 17 and 70% of young adults have had sex by age 20. Premarital sex is only considered a sin in religious communities. In the real world, sex is a part of life.

      • I made a fundamental mistake? I think you have me confused with yourself… please tell me where I said pre-marital sex was a sin in my comment.. where did I say I was a Christian? These are both assumptions you made about what I meant… but did you even read what I said??? I believe the subject was abortions being considered “responsible”… if you are not ready to have a child, but still chose to have unprotected sex, how is it “responsible” to then kill your child? All I said was (and I quote) “try being responsible in the first place and either GO ON BIRTH CONTROL OR just don’t have sex until marriage.” I never stated sex was wrong before marriage.

        **I would like to state that I am a Christian and do believe in abstinence until marriage, but I know most do not agree or believe the way I do, which is why I PURPOSELY LEFT BOTH STATEMENTS OUT!!! Please, not to be rude, but learn to read!**

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